As the old adage states, “opposites attract.” This definitely rings true when it comes to Rob Pattinson and his new girlfriend. The 26-year-old British actor previously dated Kristen Stewart for almost a year before meeting with director Rupert Sanders last November. Since then, he’s been extremely low-profile, rarely leaving the house and staying off social media.

But now that he’s seemingly emerged from hiding, speculation regarding his personal life has taken off. In a new interview with GQ, the actor opened up about dating Kate Winslet, why he doesn’t play video games, and the appeal of being overlooked.

The New Relationship And Why It’s Different

Upon hearing that Rob was dating Kate Winslet, one is immediately inclined to think of romance – particularly as the two seem to be completely immersed in a passionate makeout session in a vineyard in the recent film adaptation of F. Scott Fitzgerald’s iconic novel, The Great Gatsby. It was, in fact, one of the first on-screen kisses for both actors, and it’s safe to assume that many viewers were won over by the romantic tension that emanated from their lips. Although this scene was a product of the cinematic imagination, it still speaks to the unique chemistry between the duo.

But it wasn’t always so harmonious. In fact, the pair’s relationship was rather tumultuous and, in retrospect, it’s actually quite surprising that they stayed together for so long. The two initially bonded over their shared love of vintage cars and the 1970s – something that undoubtedly stems from their individual personalities. As Rob recounted to GQ, Kate “is very much a vintage-car person, loves old, elegant things. As we got to know each other, we started to realize that we had more in common than we thought. One of the things I love about her is that she’s very down-to-earth. She’s not afraid to speak her mind, and I like that.”

This refreshing outlook on life is also visible in Kate’s approach to dating. As she told the Daily Mail, “With my girlfriends, I always say no to anything that’s not nice. I don’t really do relationships. I’ve never had a lot of interest in them…There’s just no need – it’s so much more fun being single.” On the subject of why she doesn’t like dealing with the emotional stress of a serious relationship, she continued, “I don’t think I could handle it…I’m much more of a ‘let’s have fun and see where things take us’ person.”

No Games, Just Good Old Fashioned Fun

While Stewart and Pattinson clearly share a passion for vintage cars and the good old-fashioned fun that comes with them, Pattinson is definitely more au courant when it comes to video games. As mentioned, he doesn’t play them much, but when he does, he prefers to play on his console at home rather than at a friend’s house. If he does decide to play at a friend’s house, he’ll always choose a retro or old-school game and avoid any new releases for fear of being influenced by the gameplay. He also admitted to GQ that he had avoided playing video games for several years because he “didn’t want to be influenced by others. I wanted to make my own way, and I think that comes through in my work.”

It’s interesting to note that rather than being a source of inspiration, games can actually be a source of frustration for the actor. In an interview with Wonderland magazine, he revealed that he’d often play a game for months before becoming bored of it and moving on to the next new release. He attributed this to the fact that he “never felt like I’d achieved anything” while playing, and felt that the only way to improve was by “playing a lot and trying out different techniques.” So while games may not be his ideal date, they at least helped him to explore new things and grow as an artist.

The Appeal Of Being Overlooked

Perhaps the most interesting aspect of Rob’s new dating status is how attractive he finds it. The actor had previously dated some truly unforgettable women, including Kristen Stewart and Kate Winslet, as well as the aforementioned Gatsby co-stars, Daisy Duke and Myrna Loy. But as great as these women may be, there’s something unique about being “overlooked.”

In an interview with Marie Claire, he revealed that he enjoys the freedom that comes with being overlooked. “I actually think it’s quite an attractive thing. People see me everyday and think I’m amazing, so there’s always that for me. I’ve never been the most popular person in school, and I always felt like an outsider. I never really fit in with the popular crowd, and I think that made it easier for me to get away with things. Like, if we were at a party and we wanted to leave, the teachers would always let us out of class because they thought we were both so sweet.”

He continued, “I do think that people who are more reserved, who don’t want to draw too much attention to themselves, sometimes find it easier to get away with things that other people might not be able to get away with. Like, if we were at a party and I wanted to leave, I think the teachers would let me go because they thought I was such a sweetheart. So, I think it’s easier for me to get away with things as a result of not wanting to draw attention to myself.”

Although it may be difficult to find the perfect woman, or even the perfect relationship, for some people, being overlooked might just be what they’re looking for. If you’re looking for a relationship, or just want to find a good-looking partner, maybe consider someone who isn’t really that social media-friendly, or someone who doesn’t wear their heart on their sleeve. After all, not everything that glitters is gold and a pretty face can be a sign of a bitchy personality. In rare cases, it can even be a cause of one.