Many times we are caught unawares by a person we are having a casual conversation with. They may say something that sounds incredibly untrue and it is only then that we realize that we may be speaking with a liar.
If you are dating someone and want to be sure they are telling the truth, this article will teach you how to spot a liar. So sit back, relax and get ready to pounce!
They Make Patently False Statements
It is one thing to be deliberately uninformative or vague about something. That can be quite annoying, frustrating and evasive, especially if you are just starting out in a new country. What is worse is when a person makes a genuine mistake but does not have the courage to admit it. In such a case, you can be quite sure that they are not being truthful.
If you are in a foreign country and want to order food, you may say “I don’t eat pork”. If the person ordering the food asks “But you are not allergic to it, are you?”, you will know you are being lied to. They will either answer “No” or they will say “I don’t know”. There is no in-between in these situations – they either answer truthfully or they lie. So if you want to be sure that your food will not be spoiled, you should ask for the menu and choose something that does not contain any pork.
People who dissemble are essentially liars. They will say whatever they think you want to hear to get what they want. The classic example of dissembling is a woman who is trying to convince her boyfriend to give her a second chance. She may say “I’ve changed”, “I know what I did was wrong” or “I’ll earn my way back”, but in reality she is planning to get even with her boyfriend. She does not believe in lasting peace and thinks that the best way to get back at him is by lying to him. She will do this to get him to trust her again.
Another example of dissembling is a person who pretends to be your friend but really wants to sabotage you. You can tell they are not really your friend because they will always have something selfish to say about you. They might bring you down a peg or two by saying mean things about you (but it will never be very direct or obvious).
They Lie About Small Things
Small things tend to be the ones that people lie about most frequently, especially when they are trying to hide something. Your best friend may try to convince you that something is not true because it is bothering them. They will say things like “I didn’t get very much sleep last night” or “I don’t have anyone to talk to” or “I’m getting really paranoid now”, but in reality they are just trying to avoid telling the truth.
It is quite normal for people to lie about small things. They do it to protect themselves from the consequences of their actions or to keep something from happening. They do not want to own up to what they did, so they invent a small lie to cover it up. Your friend may not want to ruin their friendship with your partner, so they will keep quiet about whatever happened.
Watch Out For The Little Things
What do you get when you cross an obsessive-compulsive disorder with an attention-grabbing liar? You get someone who is very controlling and demanding. When you are around them, they will continually do and say things that are designed to make you uncomfortable. They may come off as charming but you should not be fooled. Beneath that veneer, they are a destructive, manipulative little liar. It is better to be safe than sorry, so always keep your guard up.
Sometimes it is not easy to tell if someone is being honest or not. In such cases, you can usually tell by looking at their body language. When they are lying, they will cross their arms, lean back and look at you with a steely gaze. While these are not guarantees that they are lying, it is usually a good indication that you should not believe what they are saying.
Checking Up On Them Is A Good Idea
No one likes to feel like a fool, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. If you are starting to believe that someone is cheating on you, it is best to confront them with the issue. Although it is hurtful to find out that someone you love is cheating on you, at least you will be able to put an end to it. If you suspect that your partner is lying to you, it is not a good idea to take their word for it. When you question them about it, you are giving them the opportunity to be honest. If they are telling the truth, it will be obvious to you. If they are not, then at least you will know that you were right all along.
Do not get angry or upset when you confront your partner about lying to you. It is not your job to “punish” them for what they did. All you want is the truth, and if they are not willing to give it to you, then it is best to cut off all ties with them. You do not need someone who will not be there for you when you need them the most. If they are willing to change, then great! If not, then it is time for you to walk away and find someone who will be a better match for you in every way.
As mentioned earlier, it is not always easy to tell if someone is being honest or not. Sometimes it is quite difficult. The main issue is that you do not want to be the cause of someone else’s pain. So if you are not sure whether or not someone is being truthful with you, it is better to walk away. You do not need to be with someone who will hurt you in order to feel safe. Safety first, always.
Lying To Get What They Want
There are people who will do and say anything to get what they want. They will lie, cheat and manipulate in order to get what they want. When you find yourself in the middle of a manipulation conversation with someone, it is best to walk away. Do not listen to them if they are trying to pull the wool over your eyes. Wolves in sheep’s clothing, so to speak. You will simply not see it coming and when it is too late, you will find yourself in a very uncomfortable situation. Do not trust anyone who is not trustworthy. It is not a good idea to give your guard down even once. You can get hurt very easily by doing that.
If you suspect that someone is being dishonest with you, it is usually best to walk away. Do not wait for them to come clean. It is always better to be safe than sorry. Keep your guard up when dealing with anyone, but especially with those who you do not know very well.
There, now you know how to spot a liar. Hopefully this article gave you enough information to recognize the signs of a deceitful person. If you want to be sure that your food will be hot when you eat it, avoid pork and make sure you check up on your waiter/waitress once the food arrives. Thanks for reading! We hope this article helped you.