It’s been a tough year for pop stars. Just when we thought the coronavirus pandemic couldn’t derail our engagement and wedding traditions, BFFs Kylie Jenner and Cara Carleton (who is also my wedding photographer) threw us a curveball.
The pandemic not only halted the celebrations, but it also made us question the meaning of “being in love” and “being married.” We wondered if marriage would even be worth it considering the many challenges inherent in it. Who needs a wedding cake when you can’t even eat a candle during the ceremony? Who wants to honeymoon in Italy when you have to quarantine for six weeks in a hotel in Ibiza?
As the pandemic wound down and people started getting back to their old ways, the conversation shifted. We started brainstorming about our post-pandemic future, and the words “wedding tour” and “bigger family” started coming up. Since the dawn of time, romance has been intertwined with the promise of commitment, partnership, and family. But what happens when your personal life and professional life are no longer distinct? Does being in love translate into being married? Is having kids what you really want? Or does becoming a mother change your perception of love and marriage?
As a single person, you have the freedom to explore your options. But once you decide to marry the person you love, there are certain expectations that come along with it. Hopefully, these expectations will make you happier and lead you to choose wisely. Here are five things that Robert Pattinson’s new interview with Harper’s Bazaar shows us about his expectations for the future:
He’s Ready For Marriage & Kids
“I’m ready for marriage and kids,” Pattinson, 38, told the British fashion magazine in its April 2020 issue. “I think a lot of men are missing out. I’ve always liked having a wife and kids around, and I think a lot of men would like that as well.”
When asked if he wants kids in the future, Pattinson said, “For sure. I mean, the timing’s bad now. But when the time’s right, you know when it’s right. You don’t need to have the perfect family to have a happy family. I don’t want to put pressure on myself or anyone else. But I think it’s a possibility.”
Pattinson and his band, The Robert Pattinson Group, released their third studio album, “The Seldom Seen Kid,” in August 2019. The follow-up to 2012’s “Walking Past Glances” and 2015’s “Battleborn,” which both entered the Billboard Top 200 at No. 1, is their most personal album to date. Inspired by personal struggles with fame, addiction, depression, and suicide, the album is a raw account of Pattinson’s life.
Pattinson has never been one to sugarcoat his feelings or words. For years, his openness and vulnerability was often met with criticism from fans and the media. But now that he’s found the right person and is settled into a loving relationship, he’s finally able to let his guard down and be himself. On “The Seldom Seen Kid,,” he spills his heart out on songs like “You Don’t Love Me,” “When The Going Gets Tough,” and “Trouble.”
He’s Looking For A Sign
Pattinson is actively looking for a wife and wants to settle down. But he’s not looking for just any old wife. He’s open to meeting women from all walks of life, and he expects them to be on his same page as he is about wanting to start a family. One of the things that attracted him to BFFs Kylie and Cara is that they both share the same vision as he does.
“I think a lot of men would like that (having a wife who shares the same vision as you do). A lot of men would like that balance. Someone who can understand what you’re going through and can give you support when you need it. You need someone who is on the same page as you are,” Pattinson said. “It would be nice to meet a woman who is really driven and ambitious, and wants to make the most of her life, but also wants to have kids and be a wife. It would be nice to find someone who wants what I want.”
On “The Seldom Seen Kid,,” Pattinson sings about his desire to meet a woman who can complement him. “I’d love to find a woman who is smart, funny, and can hold her own against me. You know, someone who can keep up. I think a lot of men would like that as well.”
It’s not that he’s looking for a trophy wife or thinks that kids are a burden. Pattinson said that he wants to do the right thing by becoming a father and that he wouldn’t mind being a stay-at-home dad. He just doesn’t want to rush the process. Just as he made the decision to get married, he wants to make the decision to become a dad. In the meantime, he’s happy to be with Kylie Jenner and Cara Carleton.
The First Lady Of His Life
The most important thing to Pattinson right now is Cara Carleton. The photographer, who has been documenting his life since he was 14 years old, is not only his wife, but she’s also become the first lady of his life. (He has a son, Lorenzo, from a previous relationship.)
“She’s such a supportive wife, and, you know, there’s been a lot of change in my life in the past year. I feel like it’s been a real adjustment for both of us,” he said. “I think it’s taken some time to get used to the idea of me being married and becoming a father. But we’re both adjusting to it.”
On “The Seldom Seen Kid,,” Pattinson sings about his new wife, “You’ve been such a good wife/I think you might even be the mother of my child.”
Being a newlywed couple is hard enough. Add to that the added pressure of being famous, a celebrity couple, and the expectations that come with that. Just like any other newlywed couples, they face challenges — like adjusting to a new partner’s habits, for example, or dealing with in-laws — but the upsides are worth it.
“I think we’ve both learned a lot from this experience and grown as individuals,” Pattinson said. “It’s definitely been a bit of a whirlwind, but we’re happy.”
He Wants To Be A Stay-at-Home Dad
Another thing that attracted Pattinson to Jenner and Carleton is that they both share the same vision as he does about being a father and want to be able to stay at home with their children. The singer would like to be a stay-at-home dad and is open to ideas about how to make that happen.
“I’d love to find the right woman who can be a mother to my kids and also be the person I want my kids to grow up around. I think a lot of men would like that as well,” Pattinson said. “I think it would be great to find a woman who can be an equal partner with me and raise my kids with me, you know, be the motherly figure for my kids.”
Pattinson has always been open and vocal about his desire to be a dad. In fact, he wrote an open letter to his fans in 2014, not long after announcing that he and his then-girlfriend, Rosie Huntington-Whiteley, were expecting a child:
“To all my fans,” he wrote. “I just want you to know that Rosie and I are expecting a baby. We’re really happy that this has happened and can’t wait for everyone to meet our little Prince George. It’s going to be a very exciting time. You can expect to see a lot more from us in the coming months.”
The letter was published in several British newspapers and magazines, and it received a positive response from fans.