Ever since Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson started dating, everyone has been asking why the couple decided to have children. Well, the answer is rather simple: They truly love each other and enjoy being parents.
In an interview with InStyle, Pattinson claimed that he and Stewart always wanted to have kids. Furthermore, the actor said he feels a huge sense of responsibility and joy in being a father. He also loves that his children get to see both their parents work together. While we all can agree that having children is a beautiful thing, it’s not always easy. In today’s society, it’s becoming harder for couples to have kids the old-fashioned way. There are so many obstacles in life that can make having children more complicated. From money to career, it’s just not easy to find the right time and place for baby making.
Money
If you’re looking for financial security, having a baby probably isn’t the best idea. According to research, a woman’s earning potential once she gives birth decreases by about 20 percent. Furthermore, since fathers are legally required to contribute equally to the child’s upbringing, women could find themselves in a financially vulnerable position. Some individuals choose to forgo having children due to the extreme economic costs. It’s easy for young people to get into debt and incur massive financial costs that they may never recover from.
Quality Time
Even when life seems like it’s going well, having children can make it seem like the problems never end. If you’re a working parent, quality time is something that you’re going to desperately need. It’s not hard to imagine that having children will cut into the time that you need to spend with them. The fact that you have to go back to work even before your child’s first birthday is a clear indication of how much time and energy you’ll need to put into the job. It’s not just about earning a living and providing for your family; it’s about giving your kids the best opportunities in life.
Health
Another major problem for many families is that having children makes you, as a parent, permanently predisposed to certain health problems. Since the two parents have to split childcare duties and health responsibilities, it doesn’t exactly leave the other parent free from physical harm. Many women experience a sharp increase in their risk of miscarriage and childbirth-related complications. Some men also suffer from health issues that they weren’t previously prone to. It’s a serious problem that many families encounter. The fact that so many men aren’t willing to assume full responsibility for the pregnancy is a clear indication of how much of a health issue this is for so many people.
Established Career
In a world where jobs can be done remotely and employers don’t necessarily need to be in the same location, it’s becoming easier for parents to pursue careers that don’t necessarily depend on them being physically present in an office. If you have an established career, it can be hard to take time off work to look after your children. Even when you do take paternity leave, you’ll still have to find time to go back to work after your child’s nap time is over. If you’re concerned about this, having children may not be the best option for you.
Fashion
Fashion-wise, having children will give you an opportunity to try on a different side of life. If your wardrobe is anything like mine, when your baby grows up, you’ll become quite attached to their diapers. The truth is that when your kids get older, it’s going to be difficult to find outfits that both of you like. It doesn’t help that as a parent, you’re going to be having a lot of back-to-back parent-teacher conferences and other important social functions. This can be exhausting, even when you’re dressed the part. Fashion isn’t the only thing that changes when you have children. Your social circle is going to be a lot broader, which is both a blessing and a curse. You’re going to meet new people and make new friends, but you’re also going to have to adjust your routine to fit their needs. It’s already difficult to meet the basic needs of your child; how are you supposed to meet their needs for attention and nurture when you’re focused on your responsibilities as a parent?
Wedding Plans
If you’re looking for an excuse to get married, having children is the perfect excuse. When you have kids, every wedding plan becomes a lot more complicated. Do you really want kids as part of your wedding? Will you be able to give them enough attention? How about adding a wedding ceremony to your child’s birthday party? These are all questions that you’re going to have to answer. On top of that, how are you going to pull off the perfect day when you’ve got little ones crawling around you, demanding to be in photos? There are numerous reasons why having children may not be the best idea for some couples. The list is endless, but if you’re thinking about expanding your family, it’s best to be prepared for the consequences. You may find that having kids isn’t everything you’d hoped it would be. Take your time and do what’s best for you and your family. It’s never easy choosing to parent a child whose needs are different from your own. It’s worth it in the end.