I know how tempting it is to want to skip the formalities and the baggage and just get back to what matters most, which is being together with the person you love. But sometimes, what matters most isn’t what you want – it’s what your ex wants. And when that happens, even the most stubborn exes can be persuaded to go their separate ways. In fact, sometimes there’s no other choice.

Consider Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart. They were once the golden couple, together and happy. They had three beautiful children and promoted healthy living and women’s empowerment through their clothing lines and social media platforms. But about five years ago, both their careers took a hit. Robert Pattinson’s movie career stalled and he hasn’t been able to find adequate work since. Even worse for him, his family life began to fall apart. In 2016, he finalized the split from his wife, Kate Winslet, after only 18 months of marriage. The divorce was amicable, but there were allegations that he had abuse and/or addiction issues that affected his ability to be a good husband and father. After the split, he began dating again and even started a family with his girlfriend, singer/songwriter and actress, Emily Blunt. But his children from his previous marriage remain a massive part of their lives. For example, his youngest child, Henry, was born in November 2017 and is named after his father’s best friend, Henry Wicks. And as if that weren’t enough, in March of this year, their one-year-old daughter, Alice, suffered a fractured femur after falling from her parent’s bed. The injury required surgery and a period of hospitalization. Fortunately, she is doing well and is now able to walk. Unfortunately, this was a traumatic event for the family and they are still coping with the unexpected turn of events. The injuries were so severe that at one point, doctors considered whether or not to amputate her leg. Thankfully, this was not the case and she is now expected to make a full recovery.

For her part, Kristen Stewart has been able to pick up the pieces of her life and continued to work steadily. In fact, she is currently promoting her new film, A.C.O.D., out on August 2nd. And as if to prove how well she’s done, she began dating director Rupert Sanders in 2017. Their whirlwind romance was covered by every major news outlet and appeared to be the perfect match. But as with Robert, even Kristen’s perfect life turned to dust. She admitted in an interview that she had an affair with Sanders while she was still married to actor Chris Pine. Sanders denied the affair, but admitted to being in “a consensual relationship” with Stewart and that he was leaving their relationship amicably. But since the news of the affair broke, Stewart has been doing her best to play it cool and not let the press and public know how much their apparent reconciliation hurts her. And to make matters worse, their daughter, Arya, is now seven years old. She’s old enough to understand what’s going on and it’s breaking her mother’s heart. But it’s also terrifying her. She’s clearly worried about what will happen to her now that her parents are back together and whether or not they’ll still love her. This is all heartbreaking for a child to witness and even more so for an adult child. In other words, this is a very, very complicated situation. And as with most complicated situations, there are often no simple answers. Which is why, sometimes, you have to try harder than you ever have before to get your ex back.

Make Your Ex Feel Important Again

If you’re looking to get your ex back, chances are you haven’t seen them in a while and haven’t spoken to them in at least a year. This is both good and bad. On the one hand, you’re no longer seeing the person you love and it’s natural to feel a little jealous. But on the other hand, this is also a good opportunity to remind them how much they mean to you. And there’s nothing quite like a heartfelt message to make the person you’re messaging feel important again. If you’ve ever been in a serious relationship, you know that it’s important to keep the memory of your love alive. Sometimes this means making sacrifices and putting work first. But it also means remembering all the little things that make your lover special. And if you’ve lost touch, it can be easy to forget what those things are. It’s only natural to worry that they may not be there anymore. But as with most complicated issues, this is something you have to work through together as a couple, but also individually. This is why, if you haven’t talked in a while, it’s important to pick up where you left off before the problems of today became the problems of yesterday. And maybe, just maybe, this will be the push they need to realize how much they mean to you. And when they do, you’ll both be able to celebrate the wonderful relationship you once had. After all, it’s not good for love to disappear. It can be difficult, but it’s also worth it in the end.