Three of Hollywood’s biggest stars, Michael Angarano, Kristen Stewart, and Robert Pattinson, have recently gone their separate ways. Fans are speculating about the real reason behind the split, but there’s probably not one singular answer.

It’s no secret that these were some very public and tabloid-worthy relationships. The three met on the set of Twilight in 2008, and their off-screen chemistry was evident even then. They were photographed holding hands and kissing, which probably didn’t help their relationship’s image. Not to mention Pattinson’s admission that he’s a serial monogamist who’s only been with Stewart twice. And let’s not forget about the cheating allegations that followed. But as much as we’d like to think that the stars’ public displays of affection were the root cause of their split, it probably wasn’t. There was more to it than that. Here are the top five reasons the Twilight stars broke up.

1. Growing Pains

First off, let’s discuss the elephant in the room: the strain that being a celebrity can put on a relationship. Everyone in Hollywood knows that being a celebrity is a double-edged sword, and it’s definitely true. You have your upsides, like getting to travel and eat what you want, and having someone pay your bills. But there’s also a dark side to being a celebrity, one that can put a strain on your romance. If you’re already facing stressors in your personal life that you’re not willing to share with your partner, being a celebrity can make the situation much worse. And what’s worse, you may not even be aware of the additional stress you’re putting on your relationship.

It’s a hard truth that fame can be an isolating force. If you want to be with someone who understands your world and can relate to your experiences, you may need to find a partner who’s a little less famous than you. That’s definitely a compromise to consider, but it may be worth it.

2. Money Talks

Speaking of compromises, let’s talk about finances. These three celebrity friends were rarely seen without a massive financial commitment in the vicinity. They had expensive habits that they didn’t seem to know how to break, and their extravagant lifestyles weren’t helping the situation. It was estimated that in 2010, they collectively spent about $500,000 a month, which is more than a quarter of a million dollars a week. That’s a lot of money. And even if you account for inflation, the cost of living in LA has gone up, so even that quarter of a million dollars a week seems more like half a million dollars today.

It would have been easy for the stars to get along on a limited budget. They could have downsized their habits and adopted more frugal ways of living. But that’s probably not what attracted them to one another in the first place. Being able to spend thousands on taxis and restaurants, and having dozens of people write them love letters is more enticing than having to make do with cheaper forms of transportation and communication.

3. Growing Pains

There’s also the issue of maturity to consider. These three celebrities were already struggling with some semblance of a mid-life crisis, mostly focused on their physical appearance. They wanted to be considered more fashionable and achieve the perfect beach body they’d seen in a magazine. But if you’re seeking a spouse to share your thoughts and feelings with, someone who can provide emotional security and stability, it may be a good idea to look for a partner who’s a bit more mature than you are.

They also wanted to feel desired and to avoid being seen as ‘the plain one’, which is often the case when two or more people of the same sex are involved in a romantic relationship. If any of you are curious about the appeal of a ‘plain one’, it’s quite simple. People in general like to look at the person they’re with, not some random woman or man. And when people are attracted to the same sex, it brings with it a host of complications, because it’s not necessarily a good idea to mix business with pleasure. There are many pitfalls that come with dating or being in a relationship with someone who’s a few years older than you, and for these three stars, it really was the pits.

4. The Media

The fourth and final issue that I’d like to discuss is the media. It’s been well-documented that the media can have a negative influence on any relationship. While the stars may have wanted to keep their personal life private, the media isn’t having any of it, especially when it comes to celebrity relationships. They want to know everything, and they’re willing to pry into your most personal details if they think it will land them a story. What’s more, the media likes to pit celebrities against each other, and this can really strain a relationship, especially if the couple disagrees about certain aspects of their personal lives.

It’s been said that being in the public eye is like being in the movies every day. You’re always with whoever the audience is interested in, and because there are so many cameras around, everyone feels like they have a chance to be the center of attention. It’s no wonder these three stars found themselves in a situation where they were constantly fighting over who was going to be featured more on social media, and who would get to be the central character in the relationship.

5. Mental Blocks

The final and probably the most important issue is mental blocks. These celebrities are very intelligent individuals, and because of that, they can have very intelligent disagreements. They may not always have seen eye to eye on certain issues, but that doesn’t mean they can’t remain friends. What’s more, they probably both realized at some point during their relationship that even though they were passionate about one another, they probably weren’t right for one another. They had to do some spring cleaning, and decide whether or not they were better off as friends, or whether or not they wanted to commit fully to one another.

Being friends doesn’t mean that you’re not committed to one another. It just means that you’ve realized that even though you have a lot in common, there are also some significant differences between you. It can be really helpful to have friends who are both knowledgeable and compassionate, and who can provide support while also being a sounding board for your ideas. But if you want to find the love of your life, you should look for someone who is completely confident in their own opinions, and who has no fear of expressing them. And by the way, being a sounding board for your ideas doesn’t mean that your friend will agree with you. It means that they’re willing to have an open and honest discussion, and that they value your opinion. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide if you want to act on these feelings or not. But first you have to acknowledge them and understand what is driving them.

In General

I’d like to close this section by talking about the general theme of money, fame, and insecurity that seems to be running throughout this article. It’s no secret that Hollywood is a community that’s heavily influenced by the media, and because of that, it’s a completely artificial environment. While we may not always like to admit it, being a celebrity can be a double-edged sword, and it probably costs these three some of their most cherished relationships. Being in the spotlight costs you a great deal. It requires a complete and total focus, as well as the ability to withstand a great deal of negativity. It’s also very physically demanding to be a celebrity. You’re constantly traveling, attending events, and making appearances, which can put a strain on your personal life. It’s no wonder that these three have decided to take a step back, and that they’re looking for someone who can support them and relieve some of the stress that comes with their fame.