Men are from Earth. They are kind, funny, and sometimes frustrating. They like to boast and be the center of attention. They want to protect women and children. And sometimes, they need help moving furniture.
We shouldn’t really have to say much more. After all, many of you probably already know what type of guy you’re dealing with. Maybe you’re even dating one right now.
But maybe you’re not. Maybe you wonder what makes a nice guy become a total jerk. What triggers that behavior? What would cause a nice guy to act so strangely?
Let’s take a look.
Why Are Nice Guys Suddenly Acting Like Jerks?
Let’s start with the obvious. Life experiences affect everybody differently. We all have days where we feel frustrated, anxious, or depressed. But, for some reason, when those feelings come back, they often come back with a vengeance. That’s what’s happening to nice guys right now. They’re experiencing something and it’s affecting them in a negative way.
Some of them may have lost a loved one. Maybe they’ve gotten divorced and can’t seem to move on. Maybe they had a bad experience with a woman and now feel like they need to protect themselves from being taken advantage of. Whatever it may be, something has them riled up and made them behave strangely.
But here’s the thing. It isn’t always obvious why they’re acting the way they are. Sometimes, their actions come as complete surprise. Women who work with menopause often see this kind of behavior and are able to name what’s causing it. They call it the midlife crisis and tell mothers and grandmothers not to worry. Midlife crises aren’t dangerous or even uncommon. It’s just that, as men get closer to reaching their mid-40s, they start losing their minds. It’s a natural reaction to what they’re going through.
And what they’re going through is a midlife crisis. Their lives aren’t what they expected them to be. They feel lost, angry, and a little bit vulnerable. If a womanizer, for example, gets jilted by a girl he was dating, he may well enter a phase of deep depression. He may also feel a need to possess all of the attractive women at his fingertips.
It’s not that women are to blame for these men’s behavior. They weren’t choosing these jerks to begin with. These are just the types of men that life brings you sometimes. You have to learn to cope and adjust your expectations. You can’t control how you feel or what happens to you.
How Do I Date A Nice Guy?
If you really want to get your hands on a decent guy, the best thing you can do for yourself is take the time to get to know him. Unfortunately, this isn’t always easy. You have to learn to filter out the bad from the good. You have to learn how to spot the signs of a nice guy and the things that make them act funny or strange. Sometimes it can be hard to find the good in people. Especially in the beginning. You may not even believe that there is any.
Look at it this way. If you’ve found a decent guy who is interested in you, is that such a bad thing? After all, doesn’t that mean that he’s interested in your well-being? Wouldn’t that make you happy? Wouldn’t that be something to fight for?
Of course it would. But what if he doesn’t make you happy? What if he takes away your joy?
You can’t have it both ways. Either he makes you happy or he doesn’t. It really is that simple. Maybe your life is already so amazing that you don’t need anybody else to make it more wonderful. But if you’re looking for someone to share your life and your future with, it might be best to find someone who brings out the best in you.
Is He A Nice Guy Because Of Genetics Or Destiny?
As strange as it may seem, some men are just born to be jerks. They may have gotten their way all their lives simply by being who they are. They were never given a chance to be liked or to find joy in life because they never behaved in a socially acceptable way. They have no shame about being who they are. To them, being nice is just an act. And sometimes that can be refreshing. But if you want a long-term partner and/or you think that being nice is the key to being able to connect with people, it can quickly go out of control. That’s why it’s important to learn to be picky with your emotions. To learn to spot the good and the bad. And to be kind to yourself. Otherwise, you’ll never be able to trust the kind of guy you’re looking for. In the end, it’s not always about you.
The Difference Between A Nice Guy And A Jerk
Being a jerk doesn’t always mean being a bad person. Sometimes, a jerk is just somebody who isn’t afraid to show their feelings. They aren’t fake nice, either. They actually mean what they say and they always keep their promises. They have manners and they respect other people, even if they don’t show it. They are confident, yet gentle. They don’t gossip or lie. They are loyal and honest. Basically, they are a good guy surrounded by a lot of bad energy.
Being a jerk often means being loud, annoying, or overbearing. Sometimes, they aren’t nice to women because they feel like women are too sensitive or because they want to hurt them. They also might hurt other people, unintentionally, due to their dominant personality. For example, if you’re dating a guy who is incredibly jealous and controlling, it might be best to break up with him before anything bad happens. Just because he’s ‘jerk’ doesn’t mean he’s going to be abusive. But if he is, you don’t deserve to be with someone like that. Nobody does. Sometimes, jerks don’t even know they’re being jerks, which is why it can be so hard to understand why some people act the way they do. They just follow the rules and the expectations that society has set for them. They don’t mind being nice as long as they can remain anonymous. They might even consider themselves ‘nice guys’. But, deep down, they’re still jerks. And that’s okay. Just because they’re nice doesn’t mean they’re suddenly going to change their ways. It takes time. And it takes effort. But if you want something better, you have to be willing to work for it. Nobody’s perfect.
Being a jerk isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes, it can be quite the opposite. A jerk is somebody who is going to fight for what they believe in, even if it means going against the grain. A jerk is somebody who is going to stand up for what they feel is right, despite what others might say or do. A jerk is somebody who takes responsibility for their actions and won’t blame others for their mishaps. Basically, a jerk is somebody who cares. Just because they’re not socially acceptable or conventional in any way, shape, or form, that doesn’t mean that they don’t care about anyone or anything. They really do. A jerk is somebody who will use their emotional intelligence to work things out. They are often highly intuitive and highly sensitive. Which is why some people like being around them. Because they can feel what’s going on inside. Even when they don’t show it overtly, they still show it through their actions. And that’s what’s important.