I never thought I’d be writing an article about my ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend, but here we are.
I liked Rob a lot when we were dating. He was charming and good-looking, and we had a lot of fun together. But now that we’re broken up, I’ve seen a side of him I didn’t know existed. To me, he’ll always be the kid who cried at Disney movies, not the grown man I fell in love with.
Here’s how you can avoid the Kid Robert Pattinson Syndrome (KRS):
Don’t Be Fooled By His Instagram Followers
Let’s face it: Rob has a huge number of Instagram followers. While it’s great that so many people are enjoying his pictures of himself playing video games or hanging out with his friends, it’s also a little disheartening that so many people seem to think he’s the best thing since sliced bread. Sure, he may have become the darling of Hollywood, but that doesn’t mean he’s not still just a kid at heart. Keep in mind that these are just Instagram followers, and it’s not necessarily indicative of how many people genuinely love him. There are so many cases where an adult pretends to be a teenager online in order to cheat on their spouses or have some fun — and it never ends well. So, while it may be tempting to think that he’s growing up and becoming a man of the people, it’s best to keep your heart away from this puppy. Don’t be fooled. Keep your distance, even if he begs you to come closer.
Know When To Intervene
You may see a troubled teen and think that they need your help, but in reality, they may just need some space. Sometimes, they grow out of situations or phases and need to be on their own to figure things out. This is why, as his parents, it’s your responsibility to know when to step in and when to let go. You never know what could happen if you stick your nose in and get involved — perhaps, he’ll end up harming himself or others. So try and remain neutral, at least for the time being.
Love Him For Who He Is
When you fall in love with someone, no matter what changes they go through, you learn to love them for who they are. You learn to appreciate their quirks and the little things they do that make you laugh. But over time, you also learn to see things about them that you didn’t like before. This is a natural process that comes with growing up and learning to appreciate humanity, instead of just accepting your own small minded opinions about what someone else should be like.
For example, when Rob was younger, he used to be really insecure about his height. He would stand in front of the mirror, trying on different pairs of shoes, constantly comparing himself to others. If anything, this made him shorter, because he was constantly comparing his own reflection to other people’s reflections, while holding on to a deep seeded belief that he was actually short. It took a while for him to realize that he was never going to fit in with the average person, and that his height was something to be proud of.
Don’t Forget The Bad
In the same vein as the last point, don’t forget the bad. Yes, there are so many good things about Rob, but there’s also a darker side. You may have known him when he was just a child, and so, it’s easy for you to see him as a little boy, acting and dressing just like a teenager. But, underneath that sweet exterior, lies a man who is capable of terrible things. Just because he plays video games and hangs out with teens on Instagram, doesn’t mean that he’s changed for the better. Love him for who he is now, but don’t be fooled by appearances. Know what you’re getting into.
Watch His Behavior
Just because someone you’re attracted to is growing up doesn’t mean that they’re going to be mature and responsible. This is why, as their parent, it’s important to watch their behavior. Observe how he interacts with his parents, his siblings, and other important people in his life. Are his manners appropriate? Do his friends treat him like a kid or like a man? When you see that he’s still just a child at heart, in some ways, you can still see the little boy that you fell in love with all those years ago.
These are just some of the things you need to consider before opening up to this new phase of your life. As difficult as it may be to hear, it’s also difficult to let go. But, in time, you may find that this new phase represents a new opportunity for you to grow and develop as a person. It’s not always easy letting go, but, in the end, it’s for the best.