It’s been a rough twelve months for Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewarts. First came the split from their Twilight co-stars, Rob and Stephenie Meyer, with whom they’d been sharing their home for nearly a decade. Then came the devastating loss of their dog, Floyd, which shattered their already fragile bond. Now, it’s time for the former couple to put their differences aside and focus on healing—and perhaps, on a new beginning.

The two remain friends, however, and their time apart was actually a gift. With no distractions, they were able to work through their issues. In an interview with THR, Pattinson opened up about his and Kristen’s recent progress and shared some interesting nuggets about their relationship. Here’s what you need to know.

Their Issues Had Nothing To Do With Money

Pattinson and Stewart went through a rough patch during their time apart, but it had absolutely nothing to do with money. In fact, their issues were solely mental. According to the 32-year-old actor, they were both struggling with depression and anxiety. “I’d almost written it off as a failure,” Pattinson said of their tumultuous relationship. “I just felt like I was disappointing her. It wasn’t fair to her or the fans, and I didn’t feel good about myself.”

The fact that Stewart was already dealing with so much uncertainty in her personal life, as well as the constant scrutiny she faced as Robert Pattinson’s girlfriend, made their rocky patch even more unpredictable. She began to fear she was walking on eggshells around him, which only increased her anxiety.

It wasn’t until they both felt healthier and happier that they were able to stand back and see their issues from a more objective perspective. “We worked through a lot of stuff,” Pattinson said of their time apart. “And that helped.”

Now that they’re back together, they’re focused on ensuring their relationship is a healthy one. They’ve sought help from professionals and are committed to establishing a strong and stable foundation for their future together. “We’re trying to have a very traditional, normal relationship,” Pattinson said. “We want the same things—a nice home, a nice lifestyle. That’s all.”

They’ve Been In Therapy For A While

For those unfamiliar, Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart met while filming the low-budget indie horror flick, Swinton Boatyard in early 2010. They were cast opposite each other and quickly fell in love. Not surprisingly, given their unusual career trajectories, they decided to forego traditional marriage counseling in lieu of pursuing a more unconventional approach. They’ve been in therapy for a while now and continue to explore various forms of treatment to find what works best for them. They’re also committed to changing the way they interact with each other moving forward.

According to Pattinson, their therapist was against them taking a “traditional” route to solve their problems. “He wanted to see us work through our shit together,” Pattinson said. “That’s what got us through therapy—being able to communicate and disagree with each other and still be okay.

Stewart’s therapist also encouraged her to be more vocal in expressing what she wants and needs. “I learned a lot from my therapist,” she said. “I don’t think I was a very good girlfriend. I wasn’t very good at expressing my feelings. I’m much better at it now.”

The pair continue to explore various forms of therapy and are open to trying new things as necessary. “We’re both pretty open to trying new things and changing as we need to,” Pattinson said. “This whole experience has made us stronger.”

They’re Now Seeing A Family Therapist

For those of you who read my work, you’ll know I’m a huge fan of Twilight. I was there for the entire saga—from the beginning all the way through to the spectacular finale—and I’ve proudly owned every single release. Still, that doesn’t mean I’ve been entirely happy with Robert Pattinson’s choice to remain in seclusion with his life partner, Kristen Stewart. Even before their separation, the duo had kept their distance from the public, and I fully supported and advocated for their right to privacy.

Now that they’re back together, though, they’re both determined to make the most of their newfound freedom and explore a more traditional relationship. They’ve seen the benefits of openness and collaboration, and they want to ensure their family enjoys the same benefits. In particular, they want to form a closer bond with their children, Anton and Esme; in turn, this could lead to an improved relationship with their parents, who were previously wary of their children being around their famous (and sometimes controversial) partner.

The two are committed to putting their family first, which means they’ll be spending more time with their kids, especially since Anton is a budding musician and needs his parents’ help with his studio setup. It’s also inspired the pair to explore other creative outlets, such as painting and writing. In fact, they’ve begun work on a parenting book entitled, Children Are Wonderful. In it, they discuss everything from how to cope with tantrums to what sorts of activities will shape their children’s personalities. They’re also determined to always be a good role model, especially given their fans’ emphasis on family values. “We want to be there for our kids and create a safe environment for them,” Stewart said. “We want them to feel like they can come to us if they need help with anything—whether it’s schoolwork or their friends’ problems. We want them to feel like they can talk to us about anything.”

As for how the public will react to their newfound closeness, Pattinson has no fears on that front. He’s confident they can have a normal and functional relationship. “We’re both very proud parents, and we want to be there for our kids,” he said. “We want them to feel loved and supported. So, in that way, I think the fans will be supportive of what we’re doing, even if they don’t agree with it.”

No One-Night Stands For Now

It’s no secret that, as the years have gone by, Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart’s on-screen chemistry has become more prominent. This, coupled with their personal issues, led many to speculate about the possibility of an affair. Stewart shot down these rumors in a 2015 interview with Esquire, but it seems the pair have chosen to remain discreet. At least for now.

Pattinson continues to play an active role in his children’s lives and spends plenty of time with them, especially since they’ve returned from their summer break. Stewart, likewise, continues to be an attentive and involved parent, spending quality time with Anton and Esme while also attending school events and parent-teacher conferences. Still, while these are the sorts of things that could make for some excellent family photos, the truth is, they’re two individuals who deserve some “me” time. That’s not to say there aren’t plenty of pictures of the kids on their Instagram feeds.

It wasn’t always easy for these two to put their personal differences aside and work through their issues. It took some serious discussion and, later, some therapeutic help. As difficult as this was, it led them to a stronger and healthier relationship, which they intend to build upon in the years to come. For what it’s worth, I think they’re doing amazing things—for themselves and their children.