If you’re reading this, I assume you’re a fan of something. Maybe you’re a fan of The Handmaid’s Tale, or Maybe you’re a fan of reality TV shows like My Kitchen Remade or Housewives Cookoff. Whatever your fandom may be, you’re bound to find a fanboy related to it. It could be your friend, your brother, or even your dad. No matter who it is, there’s a good chance you know exactly what I’m talking about.

What if I told you there was a way to deal with your fanboy? That it’s not always about winning or losing, but sometimes, it’s about compromise? That it’s possible to be friendly with your fanboy, even when you disagree or want to express your own opinions? That it’s possible to be cool in the face of incredible pressure, the kind of pressure that makes most people lose their minds?

Well, there is a way. And it all starts with asking for help.

What is a Fanboy?

In case you didn’t know, a fanboy is a guy who is primarily or solely invested in the success of a particular franchise, in-universe character, or historical event. He is often a bit of a poser, obsessed with the trivia and statistics related to his favorite topic, and highly prone to tantrums and meltdowns when things don’t go his way.

Now that you know the basics, let’s dive into how to deal with a fanboy in real life.

Don’t Be Fooled By Appearance

It’s easy to be fooled by appearances in today’s world, especially when it comes to fans of popular culture. For example, let’s say you have a friend who is a huge fan of The Twilight Saga. And let’s say you’ve never read the books but you’re familiar with the movies. You might assume that this person would be a really cool, calm, and collected individual, since he seems so collected and calm when he’s talking about vampires and werewolves. But you’d be wrong. If you showed up at his door unannounced one day, he’d freak out, bite your head off, and try to feed you to his dog. That’s a fanboy to you.

The point is that appearances can be deceiving, and it’s important to put more into context than just the surface layer. So, if you ever meet a fanboy in person, make sure you’re okay with entering a potentially volatile situation. For example, let’s say you’ve decided to start dating a fanboy. You might not want to do this if you’re currently in a relationship, or if you’re not comfortable being physically close to someone you don’t know very well. So, in other words, be careful. True romances rarely survive relationships that begin with suspicion and tension.

Dress To Impress

One of the things that makes a fanboy a fanboy is his extreme enthusiasm for a topic or concept. In many cases, his fanboyism manifests itself in a completely irrational way, making any kind of rational conversation extremely difficult. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to avoid expressing your opinions or asking questions. In fact, the opposite is true. The more you show that you’re willing to talk and debate, the more he’ll react in a positive way – he might even offer up some useful information. But for the love of Pete, make sure you’re dressed appropriately. And no, I don’t mean like Bojack Horseman or something.

Be Brave

Another thing that makes a fanboy a fanboy is his tendency to get incredibly angry or upset whenever his favorite topic is even vaguely discussed. So, whenever you find yourself in a conversation about something that’s even remotely related to your favorite topic, you’re going to encounter a potentially explosive situation. To avoid this, the first thing you need to do is be brave. Even if you’ve decided that this person is not a good match for you, or even if you believe that he’s a total dipshit, you need to be brave enough to admit it. Sometimes the only way to deal with something is to just break it off. However, if you’re still considering this person as a potential mate, you might want to work on being a stronger, braver person. And for the love of Pete, make sure you’re dressed appropriately, as discussed above.

Don’t Feed The Tabbie

Tabbies are the little cats that live in the sewers and ride the rats’ backs, delivering their prey to hungry lions and tigers. So, basically, they’re parasites. It’s not pretty, and it’s definitely not pleasant when one of these monsters stops by and demands your last Twinkie. What do you do then? It’s simple – you refuse to give in to the tabbie and throw the Twinkie away. The same goes for fanboys. If they’re hungry because you won’t give them what they want, throw them off by pretending to comply but never actually handing over the prize. And for the love of Pete, make sure you’re dressed appropriately.

Stay Hydrated

Just like with most other animals, your body’s hydration level affects your emotions and behavior. If you’re dehydrated, you’ll probably seem irritable and anxious, especially when combined with the other tips discussed above. To stay hydrated, drink plenty of water and avoid dehydration-causing situations, such as being too hot or cold, or exposed to the sun. In addition to drinking enough water, you can also use a hydration pack or bladder to stay hydrated – I’ve personally found the reusable kind to be more convenient, since I often end up forgetting to drink enough anyway. And for the love of Pete, make sure you’re dressed appropriately, as discussed above.

Know Your Role

In a healthy, adult romantic relationship, there’s usually a clear delineation of roles and responsibilities. For example, in most situations, the man assumes the role of provider and protector, while the woman offers her body and spirit to meet his needs. However, in the case of a fanboy and his devoted gf (girlfriend), the roles might get a little blurry. After all, a woman who is already providing her body to her man isn’t likely to want to give it up and assume the role of a protector, especially since she’s usually in the minority, and most likely, will be held responsible for any romantic or sexual troubles that might occur. So, she might see it as a bit of a conflict of interest if she assumes the role of a protective parent figure, trying to keep her man in line and teach him how to be a decent human being.

As a man who is looking to get into a committed relationship, and perhaps even marry the woman he loves, you need to take a step back and consider what her role should be. It’s often a challenging line to walk, especially since you’re used to being the dominant partner in most cases. But, if you want an happy and healthy relationship, you need to make sure that her role is defined, and that she has everything she needs, both physically and emotionally. In some situations, it might be best for both of you to temporarily take a step back and redefine your roles. For example, if she’s carrying some emotional baggage from previous relationships, it might be best for him to give her the physical and financial support she needs, while she learns to trust him again. This can only happen if he shows her that he’s committed to the relationship and is willing to change for the better. And for the love of Pete, make sure you’re dressed appropriately, as discussed above.

Remember, the key to successfully dealing with a fanboy is remaining calm and level-headed. So, whenever things start to spiral out of control, take a deep breath, and try to step back. You’re not going to solve everything in one sitting, so take it easy, and be patient. Most importantly, make sure you’re dressed appropriately. It’s important to keep in mind that being in the right attire will help you navigate these situations more easily – being overdressed or underdressed can really screw things up. So, wear what you feel, and make sure your outfit reflects your innermost feelings. Even if you feel nervous or anxious, or even if you think the cat is going to eat you, make sure you put on what you feel, because in the end, that’s what’s going to matter.